Sabina Bečić Spa Director, RNR Wellness
It’s all around us – technology is advancing by the day and it’s inescapable. I grew up in a world where we would write notes on tiny pieces of paper in class and pass it to our friends during a lecture, or entertain ourselves by blasting the radio and pretending to be a famous pop-star in the bathroom mirror.
It’s peculiar to see my 9-year-old brother maneuver his way around his iPad to iMessage one of his best buddies and arrange for an online Minecraft session, whatever that is. I often wonder what happened to the good-old walking up to your friend’s house, ringing the doorbell and asking “Hello Mrs. Smith, can Mathew come outside to play?”
Convenience or Confidence?
Now that we have the luxury of hiding behind a screen, it’s important not to lose touch with the real world. Often, the main reason we may feel socially awkward in a very social world is, well, our confidence. A result of these new world behaviours, is that it takes away the social interaction that inherently develops confidence in us when we are young.
I was definitely a quiet, shy, and “if I don’t make eye contact they won’t speak to me” kind of girl. Trust me, that gets you nowhere. Opportunities are missed, doors are closed, and your goals seem to become a mere fantasy.
But, don’t worry! There is in fact a way to realign your stars and change your destiny completely.
So, how do you go about making friends with strangers in coffee shops and enduring conversation with the hotel doorman? It’s an easy, three-step process:
Self-awareness – Identify your strengths and your opportunities for growth. What are you good at? Why are you good at it? Why do you do what you do? Have a good, hard look in the mirror.
Set Goals – Not just any goals – realistic ones, with realistic timelines. Set small daily goals that you can easily achieve in one day and then work towards the more complex goals when you are consistently beating your smaller goals.
Step outside of your comfort zone – Do tiny things each day that you wouldn’t normally do. Start with changing your greetings from just a “Hi” to “Tell me about your day so far. What have you been up to?” or “I haven’t had the pleasure of getting to know your name. I’m so-and-so, nice to meet you!”
It’s not about the difficulty of the task itself
It’s about your mindset and the tools you use to complete that task. Find the “possible” in the “impossible” and focus only on success.
Your mind is the most powerful tool you have, and with the right methods you can overcome your fears and begin to impress yourself with your capabilities, which by the way, leads to self confidence! The more confident you are, the more likely you will get exactly what you want, whether it’s a hot date or a raise, you WILL succeed.
Trust yourself, and trust the process.
Tags: connecting, emotional health, mental health, relationships, wellness
This post was written by RNR Wellness Team