I saw a humorous greeting card once that said “Happy Mothers’ Day, Mom”. I don’t remember the exact words on the inside, but it was something to the effect of: “Don’t worry. I don’t blame you for why I’m so screwed up.” I wish I could remember the exact words, but anyway you get the idea. It was one of those cards meant to make you laugh.
It reminded me that all too often, we tend to blame our parents for something they did or failed to do, resulting in some circumstances we now face.
I was no different. I’ve done this too. And I want to be clear here, my childhood was fantastic. I had parents who loved me, gave me a warm bed to sleep in, healthy food on the table, and a lot of love to fill my heart. But still, over the years, I remember having moments of critical thoughts about it. What was I complaining about?
Perhaps it’s the part of us that rebels when we become teenagers and want to start living our own lives. Sometimes that carries with us into later adulthood. For me, no more! Recently, I had an eye-opening change of heart. After some deep introspection and a commitment to change, I now think of all of the things I appreciate about my childhood. It feels a whole lot better thinking about the good.
My mom is in her 80s and I’ve really begun cherishing our time together. Not that I didn’t appreciate her before. I just appreciate her more now, simply said.
I come most days now to see her over the lunch hour. Usually, she makes me lunch, or I bring food, and we have a great visit. We play cards and talk about the good times. Just being together really is a gift.
As Mother’s Day approaches, I am reminded of how blessed I am to have my mom with me. My dad passed away 12 years ago, leaving a hole in my heart. I know how devastating it can be to lose a parent. So my mom is it! And I cherish her, and our time together.
Thank goodness I wasn’t too late in discovering it’s never too late to have a happy childhood. As long as your mom is alive on this earth, you still have the chance to ask her for lunch or to tell her you love her with all your heart. Nurture this relationship is very healing to both mother and child.
Have a very happy Mother’s Day.
Yours in wellness,
